I think everyone has experienced the sensation of human interaction "silence." Huh, you ask? I'm not talking necessarily about unrequited romantic interaction, although that certainly would fall into this category if it applies to you. I'm talking about attempts at simple one-way social and business interaction. You know -- you put out the feelers, and get zilch by way of response.
It's happened to me more times than I can think, as I'm sure it has for many, many others. I'm stopping to compose this post because it seems to have happened to me such an inordinate number of times in the past month or two or three that, well, it bothered the hell out of me, and I figured I needed to vent somewhere. Somewhere privately -- I wasn't about to do this on Facebook, which I've come to realize is a place you cannot put your heart on your shoulder without being dissected every which way but loose ... or without being judged one way or another.
The funny thing is ... none of my recent overtures was of a romantic nature, which, I'm sure, is by far the most common of this type of social slight. To wit:
** I dropped an email inquiry to a mayor in the Indianapolis area, hoping he might be willing to help me get access for a photography quest I really wanted to accomplish. I sent the request three weeks ago. No response.
** In August, a community jazz band performed a free outdoor concert in a park near where I live. I attended, and took pictures. Afterward, I offered the band, via email, copies of my images to post at its website (do you know what's coming up next?) free of charge. I did so because I saw that they posted pictures of their performances at their website. I told them I'd burn the pictures onto a CD and send it to them. All I needed was an address. No response. Again, there were some very decent-quality images involved here. Nada.
** I sent a request to a guy, a front man of a pretty hip pop/soul band in the community, pitching a request to photograph his band's New Year's Eve performance (I figured, New Year's Eve -- what a great photo opportunity, right?) -- and at no cost to him or his band ... other than allowing me free admission to the venue). I even told him in my pitch that he would not have to worry any expenses to feed me for the night. I just wanted to shoot pictures. And, that I would get him a copy of my best images, on CD, at no charge. No response.
** I dropped a note to the editor and a columnist at the newspaper where I work, mentioning that I'd gotten pictures of a marching band of a inner-city public high school at a parade in September. This high school had been the subject of a yearlong -- and much read -- series of periodic columns about the struggles, trials and tribulations going on at the school, a school that -- among other things -- was strapped for cash, lacking seriously in academic success stories and had little community support. When I saw the school represented in the parade with a marching band, it occurred to me that the series we were running must have been doing some good; I would not have seen this a year ago. I offered to provide the editor and the columnist my pictures -- at no cost. No response.
** In September, I shot a ton of pictures of a play performed at an amphitheater near my house. The play -- a Shakespearean drama -- was produced by a fledgling theater troupe, to which I offered copies of my images -- at no cost -- to post at its website at no cost. I did so because I saw that they posted pictures of their performances at their website. No response. These involves some pretty decent quality images, mind you. I made copies of the images for the play's producer, in fact, and he lauded the professional quality of the photos.
OK ... I suppose I can "get" where some people might be suspicious about overtures of this sort, stuff being offered for "free" from someone you don't know -- and fearing there's got to be an angle. In the instances of my photographs, all I asked for -- if the images were used -- was a name credit. I sought only exposure. No cash. You know, something to add to my portfolio/resume. In return, these people -- certainly the play and jazz band -- would be getting something they could not ever again get, anywhere else. Not, at least, for those particular performances.
So, what am I not seeing here? What is the big "scare off" that I simply cannot grasp?
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